Meet My Friends ‘The Optimists’ And ‘The Pessimists’
* Some details have been changed to protect identities.
The Pessimists are a lovely family who live in a clean semi in a medium sized town. They have two teenage children and a dog. The Optimists are another pleasant family who live in the same street and town. They also have a dog, two children and are related to the Pessimists through marriage.
My relationships have never been plain sailing and I now know that in the past I was always sub consciously expecting the worst – and guess what? That’s what I got. I got into the habit of half expecting them not work out and was just waiting for it to happen – glass half empty! I now realise that these and other areas of my life have been chose by my negative mindset. I must point out that I have been married twice and my last long term relationship of 7 years finished when my partner tragically died last year. I bear none of my ex partners any terrible will and have fond memories of the excellent times we shared.
Funnily enough my health has never been an issue for me – I don’t take it for granted and try to live a reasonably healthy lifestyle. It’s just that I don’t dwell on it and do not expect to get ill. We all have a hypochondriac friend who spends way too much energy thinking about their ailments and possible conditions. This introduces way too much negativity into their mindset and takes up a lot of their thinking time. These people are seen by those around them as negative and they are nearly satisfied when they do have something incorrect with them. In fact, at any time, we will all have something incorrect with us. Positive people keep this in perspective and do not let it hold them back. I realise that this does not apply to serious conditions and we can only hope and pray that we don’t come across this too early in our lives, so let’s not reckon about that.
The three cornerstones of a pleased and successful life are HEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS and MONEY and these make up an eternal rhombus triangle. They each touch the other and transfer energies to your life.
Mr Pessimist still works at and despises the factory he has worked in for 24 years. Mrs Pessimist no longer works in the shoe shop as she developed a terrible attitude towards the customers and was questioned to leave. She has not bothered looking for work since then. One of the children has found a job in a call centre where he is miserable, whilst the other is on benefits and looking for work.
You can achieve your dreams by adopting a positive attitude – it doesn’t matter what beliefs were instilled in you as a child. Re-educate yourself, read everything you can on self help and personal development. The past is irrelevant, nothing can change it – but you can change how you reckon about your future. The toughest part for some people is finding out what their purpose is in life.
I want to be able to see into the future but I can only speculate as to how life will eventually turn out for these families. The two wives are twin sisters and had the same upbringing. They each made a choice on how they would look at life. The Optimists embraced life and accepted opportunities which were within their grasp. The Pessimist family had got into the habit of only seeing the negative points in their lives. The children are full cousins and their family’s income and home environments were nearly identical.
We all have choices in life and if we look for opportunities to improve our conditions we will find them. If we are blinded by pessimism then we will not be able to recognise them when they come looking for us.
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